There comes a moment when your child might look up and say, with wide-eyed innocence:
- “I want to go to the office and type on a laptop all day like Mommy.”
- “I want to travel abroad for work for two weeks at a time like Daddy.”
- “I want to have video meetings at home and in the office like you.”
- “I want to go to work and come home late at night every day like Daddy.”
At first, you may feel a surge of pride. Your hard work is being seen. You’ve become a role model. But almost as quickly, that pride can twist into something else: concern.
Because if they truly knew what it was like to be you—stressed, exhausted, chasing financial security—they might rethink their dreams. And you might, too.
Why I Don’t Want My Kids to Be Like Me
After publishing Buy This, Not That, I was drained. Traditional publishing was new for me, and while I was proud to try it, it felt like swinging two bats at the plate—exhausting but satisfying to let go.
Then my publisher offered me a two-book deal. I hesitated. Did I really want to put myself through the grind again? Part of me said no. But another part—the part that wants to instill a strong work ethic in my children—said yes.
As a FIRE parent, I worry about raising entitled kids who don’t appreciate how hard life can be. So I committed to the second book, not just to help readers, but to show my kids what persistence looks like.
The Second Book, And A Moment Of Dread
Two and a half years later, Millionaire Milestones: Simple Steps To Seven Figures is finished and will hit shelves on May 6, 2025. My son has seen me write, heard me talk through chapters, and even weighed in on cover designs.
One day after school, he told me, “I want to be a writer like you, Daddy.”
My heart swelled. And then sank.
Because while writing is rewarding, it’s also brutally hard and not financially practical for most.
The Arduous Life of a Writer
I’ve often wondered how kids end up pursuing some of the least lucrative jobs after 17 years of education. Don’t they realize the world is too cruel to let them major in Art History, English, or Poetry?
Maybe not. In school, they’re encouraged to be creative, follow their passions, and believe they can achieve anything with hard work.
Unfortunately, life has bills to pay.
Unless you’re from one of the wealthiest families, spending four years and hundreds of thousands of dollars on college to pursue a career in the arts is impractical.
If my son majored in English and became a writer like me, he’d face many hungry days. He’d likely never earn enough to buy a home, let alone get married and start a family.
Instead, he could end up living in our garage, wondering where it all went wrong. During my 24 years in San Francisco, I’ve seen plenty of adult sons living at home, unable to provide for themselves.
My wife and I might not see grandchildren either. By pursuing writing, our family lineage could end, unless we build a genetic dynasty like the one in Isaac Asimov’s Foundation.
The Harsh Economics of Writing
The average book advance? $5,000–$10,000. Even a top 1% advance of $250,000 is usually split over 3–4 payments and 2–3 years. That’s maybe $83,000 a year, hardly a golden ticket, especially in a high-cost city.
And most writers don’t even get a deal. Roughly 95% fail to land one. The odds are long. The income is low. Don’t become a professional writer if you want to live well.
As one dad said to me in 2022, when I mentioned writing another book, “I’m sorry. Artificial intelligence is disrupting everything.”
So when my son says he wants to follow in my footsteps, I feel conflicted. I want him to be creative and fulfilled. But I also want him to eat.
Blogging Isn’t Easy Either
“Can’t he just start a blog like you did?” some might ask.
Sure. But most bloggers make little to nothing for years, even if they publish three times a week. AI-generated content is flooding the internet, but it’s not winning reader trust or SEO rewards, yet.
Yes, he could try YouTube or podcasting. But those, too, are long games filled with uncertainty.
Don’t build your main career on a platform you don’t own, and don’t expect passion alone to pay the bills. Here are some more reflections on making money online since 2009.
Meaningful vs. Lucrative Careers
Ideally, your child will find work that’s both meaningful and financially secure. Doctors, nurses, and teachers all contribute to society in incredible ways. But even they face burnout. For teachers, they often aren’t paid enough for what they do.
On the other end are the high-paying but potentially soul-draining jobs—investment banking, big tech, management consulting, and law—the industries where many elite university graduates land. While the work may not be fulfilling, these roles can accelerate the path to financial independence.”
The Freedom To Choose Comes From Financial Stability
If my son wants to write, I hope he does it as a side hustle, at least until he’s financially stable.
Personally, I’d love for him to pursue a career that helps society, even if it doesn’t pay well. But he’ll only have that choice if he builds wealth early. Passion without income is a fast track to resentment.
Before you try to save the world, you’ve got to save yourself.
Work Ethic Is The One Thing You Can Control
You can’t dictate your child’s path, but you can model determination, discipline, and pride in your work. Those are universal skills in any field.
That’s one reason I pushed through writing Millionaire Milestones. It’s not just a book, it’s the culmination of decades of financial learning, packaged to help people build great wealth step-by-step. Further, it’s an example of work ethic.
But let’s be frank: there’s no way I could have written this book or maintained this site without the net worth and passive income to support my family.
Writing is a labor of love. It brings deep satisfaction. But the freedom to do it regularly came only after financial independence.
Final Thoughts
So when your kid says they want to be just like you, take a moment. Smile. Hug them. Then think hard about what it means and what kind of life you really want them to have.
Because maybe the greatest gift we can give our children isn’t just inspiration. It’s optionality.
Millionaire Milestones is out tomorrow and I’d love for you to pick up a hard copy. Thank you for your support!
Reader Questions
Readers, do you believe in following your passion or being practical? Do you want your kids to grow up to do what you do? Why or why not? How do we ensure our kids choose occupations that pay enough and are also spiritually rewarding? How do we instill in our children a work ethic that will help them succeed, no matter their occupation?
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